Kim.. I think you brought up great points with saying if you were in that situation that you probably wouldn't keep it. Now that I think about it, if I was in that position I would really have to sit down with my parents and that other person and figure things out. It would be a really hard thing to go through. I know that my family will always back me up, no matter what happens. We have already had to go through unplanned pregnancies twice in my family. As hard as it is, because my parents and grandparents were brought up in different times and with different beliefs, they are still there for them. I have real life experiences to see how hard it is for them and how much you will miss out on (college, going out, etc.). I'm not saying that the baby has ruined their life, but at this age they shouldn't be having to deal with all these problems. They are supposed to be experiencing college. They had to grow up earlier than they intended to. Not only physical stress but emotional too. They aren't married, and who knows what would have happened if they didn't have the baby. Now it's almost like he has to stay with her because of their baby. I wouldn't want my family to have to go through all that again, but I don't know if I could live with myself knowing that I killed a baby.
Birth defects. I would definitely keep the baby. Yes, it may be hard, but I would never want to give up a baby just because it may have a birth defect. Most parents love their children so much more and are so close to them because their children are very dependent when they have birth defects. I know it costs a lot of money. I would rather have a child that I love than live with knowing that I was too worried about money to keep it. No one is going to be perfect. I would learn how to give my child the needs that it needs and love it that much more.