Well, like most of my responses... my opinion depends on the situation. But let's say that I was an adult and married, and was purposely pregnant...
I understand the difficulties and can see both sides to this question. I have been thinking about both sides, and what it would be like whether I was financially stable or working two jobs.... so I think I have figured out my answer.
Although it would lead to an insanely difficult life, I would 100 % keep a child with a serious birth defect. This would be one of the most challenging things to do, because having a child who requires double the attention and one on one care than most children is sooo hard. From the day that baby would be born, both parent's lives would never be the same. Of course all parents are less selfish and give so much for their children, but from what I have experienced, parents of children born with birth defects, however severe, are some of the most selfLess people on this planet. They give up all personal lives and spare time to help teach their children and help them grow, even though it is so much harder and so different than if their child had not had a birth defect. They are patient, loving people who grow amazingly strong, enormous hearts and embrace their child and challenges in a positive way. (i understand not all people are like this, but this is from what i have seen and know, and what I hope I could do if ever in this situation.)
This is also a tough situation because of finances. Many special needs children require lots of medical or whatever kinds of bills, and depending on how financially stable I was, I'm sure this would make me scared. But I would hope that if ever in this situation, i would have a strong support system of family and friends to help keep me going and support that baby. Sure, it would suck and be so much hard work to raise a child who costs more than babies already cost if i was not financially stable or well off or whatever you want to call it. But I would find a way to keep the family together.
So in a way, even though life would be tough and curveballs would definately be thrown into the picture, I would (and hopefully will someday in many Many years :) ) embrace whatever situation a planned pregnancy would throw at me because I would get to grow and become more patient and live my life for my child, whether it is born "normal", whatever that may be, or with birth defects. Thanks for bringing this up, Aub. It really made me think.
